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Hi, everyone! It’s the start of Thanksgiving week here in the US, a time for food, family, frenzy…and the chaos that can come from combining those things.

I know that the holidays can bring out old patterns that you have been working to change, so I wanted to remind all of you of a truth that can be easy to lose sight of when your buttons are being pushed:

Someone's inability to hear, understand, or accept what you say does not make what you said wrong.

(You know I only know this because I learned it the hard way, right?)

With love and gratitude for each one of you,

Tracy at women making changes

15 Shades of Change



15 Shades of Change. Where are you in the cycle of making change?


What shade of change are YOU at this moment?

When was the last time…

When was the last time you left something comfortable for something unknown?

Never doubt

Margaret Mead quote. Never doubt that a small group of committed people

Two Tips for Chronic Worriers

The thing that frightened my husband most during my potentially fatal pregnancy complication was the fact that I was not worrying about what was going on.

So…my name is Tracy, and I am a worrier.

two tips for chronic worriers

I tend to hide that fact as much as I can (another problem in itself) which means that it explodes in my head at strange times. I can tell you from personal experience that trying to pretend you’re not worried doesn’t work very well. So I was excited to find these two tips to deal with worries in A Woman’s Guide to Sleep: Guaranteed Solutions for a Good Night’s Rest by Joyce A. Walsleben, Ph.D., and Rita Baron-Faust.

1. Create a worry book

Use a simple notebook, or a section of your regular journal if the idea of having yet another notebook to write in causes you more worry. On the left hand side of the page, write down all the things that worry you. On the right hand side, list some forward motion on each of those items.

It may take some time to find an action to go with a particular worry…so don’t add that worry to your list! :) The idea is to both capture those concerns rolling around in your head and to brainstorm some possible solutions or actions to take to resolve them.

2. Worry productively

Choose a time and place where you can be alone, and in this time give yourself permission to worry. Worry freely, worry hard, worry widely. Write it all down in your worry book. Get it all out of your head.

Then, if you find yourself falling into Worryville at some other time of the day, tell yourself that you’ve already done your worrying for the day. The authors suggest telling yourself this: “I am not going there, I have done my worrying today, I’ll do it tomorrow. I have forgotten nothing, tomorrow I will go back where I left it and I’ll be fine. I should not be worrying now, and I wont.”

Wayne Dyer The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized. I love these two tips for two reasons:

1. Like Wayne Dyer says, “the activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.” (Don’t I know it!) By creating a space to note forward actions on each worry, you counteract that immobilization. Not to mention that space tells your mind there IS something you can do, no matter how small. That’s a much more powerful place to live from!

2. It gives you some perspective about how much you’re actually worrying. In the midst of a rough time, it can feel like all you do is worry. By worrying productively, you may be better able to tell if there are simply a lot of things happening, or if your worries might be a symptom of an anxiety disorder.

Are you a worrier? What helps you cope? Share your thoughts in the comments! 

Tracy at women making changes


The world as we have created it

Albert Einstein quote the process of our thinking