An Old Habit Goes Up In Smoke–A Woman’s Goodbye Letter to Smoking

Here on WMC we like to highlight real women making real changes.  Today’s post is from my aunt who, after decades of smoking, is saying good-bye to that old habit.  She is choosing instead to say “hello!” to change.  

If you, or anyone you know, would like to share their journey of personal change, please contact either Tracy at or myself at  Your change doesn’t have to be big.  Even a little change can make a world of difference to someone else in the form of inspiration.

While I was in Wisconsin for the month of August, I was able to connect with a favorite aunt.  She was getting ready to give up smoking the very next week and I asked her to share her thoughts as she embarked on such a big change. These are her words.

“Tonight I say good-bye to an old friend.

Funny thing to call a habit that will kill you…but that is what he is.

He has aided me through my parents’ deaths, my first prom, my first concert, my graduation!

He was there when my daughter left treatment and I thought I would lose her. He was there when I got her back.

I know this seems strange to those of you that have never quit an addiction…but it really is saying good-bye to an old friend.

BUT I have many new (old) friends that are going to step in and fill this void for me. Because they love me! Something a cigarette NEVER could do for me!

The toughest part of quitting smoking is that there isn’t an outward reward…I won’t lose weight, I won’t buy a smaller pant size, I won’t look “great”.

People so soon forget and this struggle for some of us is no smaller than quitting drinking or another drug.

Thank you to my wonderful niece for letting me post here! I needed to say these things tonight as I lay an old friend to rest for my health, my family and my friends.

Thanks you to what ever the power is that gave me such wonderful people in my life! I don’t want to miss a moment with them!”

an old habit goes up in smoke

It’s always so scary leaving something that is so familiar, even if it’s causing us harm.

So often we think that our old habits are “helping” us, but at what cost?

Have any of you faced a big change such as this?  Would you share what helped you get through it?

I’m very happy to report that my aunt is still smoke free today!


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Kel Wilson

I am a wildlife biologist turned wife and mother, and more recently artist and blogger. It’s my mission to spread this idea to as many women as possible: Stop punishing and depriving yourself! You are so important, unique, and special! Start loving yourself enough to make the changes you need to find your happy place. Start doing this by adding something you love to your everyday life. I promise you, it will rock your world!

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